Sean and I started dating on February 23, 2005. That being said, we found it a much more appropriate occasion to celebrate our relationship. I still like to do nice things, so inevitably I will still get him a card and maybe bake some goodies, and he will inevitably roll his eyes and say "I thought we didn't celebrate!"
Let me tell you a story that will likely step on some toes (sorry, ladies!): Sean purchased his car on Valentine's Day of 2009. While at the dealership, I noticed one of the male employees had a vase of flowers on his desk. I made some playful "aww, somebody loves you" comment (knowing he likely bought them to take home that night), to which he cynically responded "this is just so I don't get killed tonight!"
|Is this really how you want your significant other to feel? Credit: someecards|
That being said, I'm not anti-Valentine's Day. I'm happily married, so I'm clearly not anti-love. I truly believe we should all be loving one another every day. If we're constantly bickering and not supporting each other, what good is a dozen roses on a commercial holiday?
|Sound familiar? Trust me, nice gestures are way more enjoyable when it's their idea. Credit: someecards|
Yes, I have a card for Sean today, and yes, he will have bought nothing, and roll his eyes at me yet again, and I won't be offended or hurt. We won't celebrate with gifts (though we will on the 23rd!), but we will both know we are loved.
Today and everyday, we can do many things that in the long run will come to be quite meaningful:
- Take over one/some of his/her chores for the day/week
- Organize an area of his/hers that is used often (all those unmatched socks? yeah...)
- Actually stop and listen at the end of the day
- Make a meal you know he/she will love
- Or, just have a special snack/dessert at home
- Be watching and complement him/her- be specific
- Brag on them (I recently won a local Valentine's Day contest just by gushing on how awesome Sean is - I think publically sharing why he is so great says WAY more than some chocolate.)
- Go a day without asking him/her for/to do anything
- Learn and understand his/her love language
- Never stop holding hands and saying "I Love You!"
- If you find yourself disappointed by today, just remember: